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Vendor Spotlight: Defining Moments Wedding & Events of 30A

We’re bringing back our Vendor Spotlight series. Today we get the pleasure of highlighting Defining Moments Wedding & Events of 30A. You can check out their site by clicking here.

Defining Moments Wedding & Events of 30A

Heather Archdeacon-Williams, owner of Defining Moments Weddings and Events

I (Brian) have known and worked with Heather Archdeacon-Williams, who is the principal owner of the company, for over 10 years now.  Shawn Frady, our Florida General Manager, was able to sit down with her for a little Q&A for you all to get to know her better.

SF: Tell me how you got your start in the private event business and catch us up to present day?

HAW: I graduated from Florida State University, with a BA in Mass Media Communications.  For my entire Senior year, I had the opportunity to intern with the Walt Disney World Resort in Orlando.  During this time, I worked in Entertainment and then Guest Relations.  As part of my job in Guest Relations, I had the chance to work with Disney Special Activities to schedule VIP Tour Guides and tours.  During this time, I was exposed to special events, working corporate park buy-outs overnight.  Between corporate events and VIP tours, I fell in love with special events and the planning & coordination that went alongside of it.  I knew that special events was where I wanted to be.

After graduating from FSU, I worked for 3 years in ticketing and house management for all sections of fine arts in Tallahassee.  I loved it, but always felt like the ultimate destination for me was in weddings.  I applied for a job at the Cottage Rental Agency in Seaside, FL and was given a job offer as I was in route back to Tallahassee.  Not knowing anyone in this area (but captivated by the area), I picked up my life and moved within 3 weeks and was with them for 7 years as the Director of Weddings & Special Events.  Following my time in Seaside, I started my own wedding and special event planning company.  As of the beginning of April, Defining Moments Wedding & Events just celebrated our 5-year anniversary in business.  I absolutely love it!  I can’t image not being in weddings.

SF: Geographically, what areas do you cover?

HAW: I still do quite a few weddings in the Seaside and surrounding area, but now I work all up and down Highway 30A, as well as into Sandestin and Destin.

SF: Describe your ideal client. What are some characteristics you look for?

HAW: I love clients who can see the bigger picture.  It’s not just one day in their life but starting the rest of their life together. The little details are very important and can help personalize a wedding so much, but I think if a client can experience and enjoy the process, while still seeing the bigger picture, then they are going to enjoy it all so much more. This is the beginning of a new chapter of their life.

SF: What is Defining Moments Wedding & Events’ calling card?  What makes you stand out?

HAW: We are client focused. Everything we do is about them. We’re here to guide them through the entire process in making recommendations, finding things that are going to fit their personality and style because at the end of the day it’s their wedding, not ours. I tell prospective clients all the time, “We are not a “wedding factory” and we limit the amount of clients that we take on annually.  We don’t do multiple full-service bookings on a weekend.  This is so that  we can truly focus on each individual event and give our full attention to that one client.” Our couples should feel like they are the only ones getting married that year for us.

SF: If you had to pick your favorite thing about your job, what would that be?

HAW: Every day is different and unique.  I also love the fact that I get to be a part of an important chapter in this couple’s lives.  Not a lot of people can say that they get this opportunity in their careers.

SF: Do you have any tips you’d give to a bride and groom for a successful wedding?

HAW: Know your venue and asking about any potential challenges with the venue so nothing comes as a surprise (sound ordinance, parking, etc.). Also, I think it’s important to develop a personal relationship with the vendors you are working with because they are going to be locking arms with you for the next several months to make this wedding happen.  You have to be able to get along and trust them. If there’s not a personal connection, they may not be the right vendor for you.  But most importantly, I encourage my clients to take it all in on the wedding day.  It goes by so fast. So try to take time to truly experience it.  It is a very surreal experience. It is important to be able to stop for a moment, look around and realize that you are surrounded by the people you love the most and are closest to you instead of getting caught in all the little things that might come up.

SF: Because we are an entertainment company, I have to ask, what is your favorite wedding dance song?

HAW: Proud Mary by Tina Turner! I love it. I think it’s a classic. It crosses generational boundaries – grandma knows it, mom and her girlfriends are going to absolutely love it, bridesmaids and girls in general are going to get up and dance to that song. It’s got a great build to it and eventually gets everybody out on the dance floor.

SF: What’s an interesting fact that we may not know about you?

HAW: My father was a Radio DJ for country music.  He had a weekday morning show and was in radio from the time he was 15 until the day he died. No joke!  He LOVED what he did for a living (he always said that “it wasn’t work, but fun”) and I always admired that so very much.

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From a business standpoint, Defining Moments Wedding & Events of 30A with Heather is fantastic to work with. She makes our staff’s lives so easy.  We just need to walk in our lane and do our part and everything falls into place. Personally, Heather is one of the nicest people we know. Her business is a true reflection of who she is. Any bride or groom would be lucky to have a planner like Heather. We are glad to recommend a person who’s company shares some of the same values we place such at a high priority.

The Five Most Awkward Weddings We’ve Ever DJ’d | Surprise Toast And…

We’re continuing our series of posts of the top 5 most awkward weddings we’ve ever DJ’d (as told by our entertainers themselves).

After almost 20 years in the wedding DJ business, we can tell you that weddings, in and of themselves, make for great stories. With the exception of a few minor glitches, most turn out as planned, but in some rare cases, the “glitches” can be a bit more…well…interesting. As a matter of fact, some can be downright awkward. Obviously, the awkward ones make the most interesting stories.

NOTE: To protect the innocent, we’ve purposefully left out names but beyond that, I assure you that none of this has been embellished.  If you’re in the industry, I’m sure you will sympathize with us.  If you’re a soon to be bride or groom or a general reader, this may have you shaking your head.

most awkward weddings we've ever DJ'd

A good toast takes you through a color wheel of emotions. It can bring laughter, tears, and even create a sense of togetherness.  To RUIN a wedding with a toast, however, takes skill beyond measure. We were fortunate to have learned these particular skills from a master who was an active Duty General AND father of the Groom. Based on his example, we were able to compile a list of steps that will allow you to offer the worst of Toasts:

1) Talk as long as possible! A wedding is supposed to be a once in a lifetime event, so this is your chance to shine! Every little girl dreams of having a full hour and a half toast at their wedding reception, don’t they?  You don’t want to disappoint that bride on her special day, so be sure to fulfill your diplomatic duty and filibuster until the cake starts to mold. Just ignore Aunt Irma’s shushing and stay strong. Do so and you will ALWAYS be remembered as the person that everyone wants to forget.

2) Lose the filter. This point is heavily debated and can be somewhat controversial. Some people think that unfiltered stories are shameful, but we know that it helps loosen up a crowd like nothing else. Rest assured, a good cringe worthy story will make some prudish folks a little squirmy, but they’ll get used to it.

If you have a story, like General Toaster did, about catching your son on the couch with a lady of the night…YOU SHOULD ABSOLUTELY SHARE IT! The bride will eventually calm down and come back to the reception (we think). She may be crossing her arms and tapping her foot, but she’ll come back. And, that toe tapping is a sure sign that you have made a huge impact on her special evening.

3) BONUS! Not part of the toast, but still a great way to ruin a beautiful evening. Plan a surprise horse and carriage to pick-up the bride and groom about halfway through the reception. DON’T TELL ANYBODY that you have planned it… especially the couple, the DJ and the wedding coordinator. When the Bride and groom get back from their little horsy trip around the block and get back to their grand exit that THEY actually planned, everyone will be so confused that dancing will be out of the question. WIN/WIN.

Be mindful: All of this takes serious dedication, and you have to suspend any and all self-awareness…but if you follow these 3 simple steps, you can offer a toast that will let others know that, no matter how bad they screw up in life, it can always be a lot worse.

See more awkward wedding stories stories here!